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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four months now, and I am already starting to have major problems. He never takes me out which is important to me in a relationship, he has taken me on two dates. On top of that, the only time we are alone one on one is when we are going to bed and I stay at his house every night. Other than that, if I am hanging out with him, I am also hanging out with 5 other people (mutual friends). He is starting to make a lot of money at work and buying materialistic things... couldnt he be taking me out to dinner? I dont know if i am being too picky but i know i need to do something to make him understand where i am coming from without him feeling like i dont like him anymore or getting offended. PLEASE HELP I NEED A CHANGE BUT DONT WANT TO LOSE HIM!!!! |
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Inah:If you're four months into the relationship and things are there are already "major problems" why do you want to stay? As far as him taking you on dates, why do you expect a man to be in charge of all the dates? Why don't you come up with a couple dates and pay his way? This isn't the 1950s. I think that four being in such a new relationship it's probably a bit too much to be staying at his house every night. That's moving things along rather quickly. Overall I think when you have problems with a guy you should first ask yourself if there worth addressing or if you should end the relationship. If there worth it, just talk to him about those issues. But, you shouldn't try to change someone. If you don't like how he is, maybe you need a different sort of guy.
2008-07-20 15:59
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marinemj:
have you tried telling him that you want more alone time together and you would like it if he would take you out on dates more often? the only way to get what you want is to ask for it. and if you ask and he is non-responsive, then he is not much of a catch.