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My son had been getting into trouble for awhile until he ended up in Juvenile Hall then Camp. However I think he was unhappy at home because I continuously go through depression off and on, so I believe he may have been looking for attention elswhere. Now my depression is severe without him being at home, so I have fallen even more behind on rent and bills because I have had no desire to work or do anything. Anyways, my son will be gone until around Oct. 9, 2008. I just received a 60 day notice to catch up on my rent or move out, my mom and my brother suggested that I move from where I live now to where they live. They want me to move out by next weekend, today is friday and they want me to make a decision by this coming tuesday. However, I have been living out here for a total of 8 years now. Out of the 8 years I have been living a few blocks from the beach for about 5 years. Everything is really close by, there is alot of different classes of people out here and it doesn't get near as hot out here as it does where my brother lives, bottom line is that life is so much different out here. I already talked to my son about moving with my brother and he refuses because he likes it out here and feels that he can totally be himself out here without being judged or having to change who he is, I guess because we live in a lower class neighborhood and my brother lives in a much more upper class area. |
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marinemj:can you pay your rent? if so, do it. if not, you may need to go stay with family while you get your depression and finamces under control. think of it as temporary.
2008-07-18 21:22
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cheerupemochic:You need to move. Even if it's just until you can get back up on your feet, you need to move. It will help stabilize your depression. You will eventually have to go back to work, and living in an upper class area will potentially find you a better job, besides putting your son in a better living situation. Obviously his surroundings need to change -- he's ending up in juvenile hall and camp. He says he likes it there... But he's NOT DOING WELL, and that's the most important part. You'll have family with you, besides your son, and that can help bring up your mood as well. Being surrounded by people will help cheer and motivate you. As for your son, he'll be fine -- it's easy for kids to make new friends. Tell him that no matter where he is, he doesn't need to act like anything but himself, and he's bound to find people he has things in common with anywhere. Unless you want to KEEP living in the rut you say you're in, get out now. Nothing will change your situation now, nothing will help you. Not even the beach. You can always drive to the beach in your spare time, and eventually move back if you choose. You may even end up meeting new people. Change CAN be good. And remember you always have the option to change back.
2008-07-22 13:49
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harleygirl:
You need to get a handle on your depression so you can help your son. Are you on medication? Your condition is so treatable. All you have to do is ask for help. You may feel like it's hopeless, but it's not. Social Services can provide guidance for you and lead you in the direction you need to be going. You probably won't be happy if you move to where your brother is. Try to work things out where you are. There are people who want to see you succeed.