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I have been friends with this girlat work for a while now and all the sudden we are getting really close . she is a real cool person . although there is another girl at work who I thought was cool but she is kind of stuck up . I think my friend who I am getting really close with wants to be friends with the stuck up girl . usally when another girl joins the crowd I feel like the more the merrier not this time . I have tried being friendly with the stuck up girl she is nice to me and all but when I asked her to go to the club one time she acted like she wouldnt want to hang with me . she just gave a funny look she said ok but it was a wierd ok . my good friend always keeps asking questions about the stuck up girl and it seems like my friend is trying to be her friend . my friend said one time she tryed being nice to the stuck up girl and she acted snooty to her . although this girl is also snooty to my friend it seems like she still keeps trying to be cool with her . its like my friend is chasing her for a friendship . my only concern is if they become friends will the snooty girl try to make my friend stop hanging with me ??although the girl is sorta snooty with my friend I think she would hang with her before she would be caught hanging with me. I am just scared I am going to loose this girl as friend . i just hope that if they do become friends she can learn to see I am not such a dork as she thinks . I hope my friend dont start thinking I am a dork just because the other girl does . maybe we could all be friends thats what I hope .whatdo you think ??? |
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marinemj:first of all, maybe the snooty girl is just shy or socially awkward. you might be surprised how many people come across as stuck up because they are just not great in social situations. give her a chance. second, harley is right- just chill out and be yourself. if your friend drops you for the snooty girl or thinks you are a dork, she is not much of a friend. you can't control what she does or who she wants to be friends with, so just rela and try not to drive her away by acting desperate.
2008-07-23 11:32
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wullaby:In living, you see exactly what it is you want to see. Basically, whether or not someone is cool or a dork or snooty is up to YOU!! But do not be too mystified by the mystery that you are. Honor your feelings and let them lead you. I like your thinking, I like how you worry because you are handling your business and living your life stage. Maybe you are worried you do not have grace, but it is not easy to see it when you are the one making the story, and your mental and emotional workload is full or maxed out. Well, I see it. Good luck.
2008-07-25 07:51
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mbawar:I agree that you shouldnt try so hard. Many friend left me behind but its okay, its better to make new friends rather than stay with the one you try so hard to be with. If you do that, You'll find that life's so easy when you just go with the flow. I used to try so hard to keep many of the friends that treat me bad or try to leave me, and it only made me look like a loser.
2008-08-04 16:46
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harleygirl:
I think you need to relax and stop trying so hard. Desperation is really unattractive in any relationship. You can't force this girl to like you, regardless of the circumstances. Just try to be a good friend, and if she enjoys being with you, you'll continue being friends, especially when the snooty girl snubs her. Don't compete. Nothing is more appealing to other people than confidence. THAT'S what draws others to you. People of both sexes will find that compelling.