My Social Anixety and the 4 hour lock out. |
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My social anxiety might stem from my life as a child. I was home schooled most of my life, and wasn't allowed to have friends. I have wrote about my problem with my social anxiety here before. Its really been hard for me. I am trying to not let it get to me too bad, but I live with roommates and our house is being fumigated for bugs on Monday. This was actually supposed to be done on Friday, which was perfect because my boy friend was going to get home in time to be with me. My problem is that I have no friends and no car to go hang out with or drive somewhere while the house is being fumigated. My roommate thought it would be a good idea to reschedule it on Monday, which made my boy friend angry, because he knows that I will have no where to go while he is at work.On Friday he was only working a half day. I am thinking of walking to this book store and buying a book and sitting at Starbucks for 4 hours... which is how long it is going to be until I can get back into the house. I totally hate this. Plus I just moved to this new area, so I don't know what to do. Also my anxiety is going to be horrible under the circumstances. My roommate knew how I felt about that whole situation but she didn't really seem to care, she said that it justs works better for her. I guess I have to start somewhere dealing my my social anxiety but I didn't think I would be stuck outside for 4 hours, in an area I know nothing about with no car. Any suggestions? Things I can do to not feel awkward? |
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marinemj:the book and starbucks idea is a great one. is there a movie theater near you? going to the movies alone is great- you can see whatever you want and no one snarfs your popcorn.
2008-03-08 21:11
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harleygirl:Those are good ideas, but I have a question. Why is your roommate in charge of the fumigation if it's such an issue for you? If she changed it, why couldn't you change it back? Still, you need to work on getting stronger so that you're more comfortable.
2008-03-08 22:33
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wullaby:You seem never to have gotten to a point you understand your business. Everything that lives this earth HAS business -- and that is why it belongs. If you are somewhere you do not belong, then by all means I hope you feel anxious so that you can get back to where you should sooner. But if you are within your business and you are still anxious, then clearly you have not found yourself. Those are problems children have. You need to situate yourself within this whole, know what you are about and get some confidence to handle your business. How long do you intend to cheat on this task and not see how living ratifies you? -- if you hate as bad as you make it sound here, just do something about finding yourself. No one and nothing can harm you when you act within your business. They truly have no power once you learn them. Nothing out there acts out of line, outside their business - even living. So feel more confident to be. I like your idea to go to Starbucks or go book shopping. Speak to people if you must. You do not have to say anything if you do not want to. Good luck.
2008-03-10 07:28
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username:Take a walk around the area that you know nothing about, and start learning about it! If you become more familiar with it, you will feel more comfortable, and have less anxiety. Maybe you will see and find some really cool things in your new neighborhood! Then go have a latte!
2008-03-11 11:37
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whatdoyoumeancookie:
yeah, you have a great idea. spend some time looking around at the books at the bookstore too. you won't even have to talk to anyone, just be around people. that is exactly what i would do in your situation. good luck.