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Inah:I'm currently 23 and I can tell you that normal, well-adjusted 23 year olds don't want to date teens. When I was a teenage girl I thought there wasn't a big difference between me and someone in their early twenties. Now, I realize I was mistaken and that the difference is huge. Now it's even hard for me to have friends that young. My youngest friend is 18 and we've both been in the same sport since she was five. In terms of dating old guys, don't do it. I'm not sure if that's what you're aiming for, but it's not a good idea. Most teen mom's get knocked up by men. Older guys might just be looking for easy sex. This guy doesn't sound like he's after you. He doesn't seem like he even wants to be your friend. You have to respect that. It's not often that a person I meet turns into a true friend. You should make friends at your school and worry about the 20-somethings when you've graduated and start your adult life.
2008-03-09 18:16
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whatdoyoumeancookie:yeah stay away and don't even try to be friends. what can you possibly have in common with him? weird...
2008-03-09 22:29
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whatdoyoumeancookie:no no no wullaby no. you are all wrong. there is no way it is legal for a 16 year old to have sex with a 23 year old. and that's what people do when they date. they have sex. maybe not when they are 16 but definitely when they are 23! not legal. even if the older person is male. nay, ESPECIALLY when the older person is male. i don't even follow. yeah so wullaby raises a new point---this guy could go to jail. that's why its called JAILBAIT
2008-03-10 12:04
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wullaby:You are old enough to date for most states. It is a bit iffy if the older one is female, but in your case it is OK. Women and men have different paths to being socially ready - by themselves and for themselves as individuals. Females get there quite a while before men and can be ready for the practical day to day of a relationship sooner. However, once that hurdle has been crossed by both (i.e they are socially stable and have found themselves), love is OK within a viable range - if you want children and a longer living partner, you see. But back to your issue: if this young man is not warming up to you, you cannot force things. You have to take people as agreeable on their own accord. Do not challenge yourself to try and make them good for your purposes - either they are, or they are not. Good luck.
2008-03-10 06:53
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Ilovehimnot12:All of you are wrong! I don't think this girl wants to date him... clearly she just wants to be 'good friends', duhh! F**k anyone who says different, go for it and talk to him more and hang out with him more... *The Only Way Is Up*
2008-03-11 16:21
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Everybodys Got One:
Dear Too Young To Date A 23 Year Old,
You are too young to date a 23 year old. I don't care at all if he is shy. I've been 16. I've been 23. They are very, very different ages. And if he is 23 and actually considering dating a 16 year old, he is creepy and quite maladjusted. I don't care how hot/cool/nice/cute/sweet or whatever you are. Normal 23 year olds know that 16 year olds = prison terms - and they know that those laws were created for a good reason.
If the two of you are soul mates, find him again when *you're* 23 and he's 30. That'll work out just fine. For now just be a 16 year old and do your best to forget about this guy. Date people your own age. Learn from your experiences and enjoy being young. Don't be in a hurry to become old - it's over-rated.
-EBG1