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I recently found an email from my husband to a business associate referring to me as his ex. When I confronted him, he responded with anger. And told me to think what I want. We are not speaking at all. What should I do?

asked by Anonymous on Friday, July 25, 2008 - 11:08 | PROVIDE UPDATE

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whatdoyoumeancookie:

wow, what the fuck. why would he do that?

sorry i don't really have any advice for you except maybe you should talk openly to him about it, and you might want to consult a lawyer. that sounds damaging.

also maybe couples therapy, if you guys wanna fix whatever problems you have.

2008-07-25 14:03
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harleygirl:

I would get a good lawyer. If he responded with anger instead of apologizing, you guys are in serious trouble. He may already be sleeping around. You need to protect yourself, financially and sexually.

2008-07-25 14:09
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marinemj:

yeah. weird. are you sure he was referring to you? maybe he means someone else- like he was having an affair and now he's not.

but you guys definitely need to talk this out, preferably in front of a therapist. and it might not be a bad idea to see a lawyer and figure out what you need to do to protect yourself.

2008-07-25 15:23
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ravjav:

First, get all your important papers, make copies of them and take them to a lawyer, along with a copy of that message. You need to protect yourself first and foremost.

Secondly, I would get myself tested for STD's. It sure sounds to me like your H is cheating (or soon will be).

Thirdly, if you are still interested in being married to a man who refers to you as his "ex" tell him you want him in couples counseling ASAP or else, and mean it. There is no excuse for this behavior.

2008-09-03 21:36