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You are still young. He may be the one you spend the rest of your life with but a lot happens after high school. There should be no harm in waiting a few years until you both are a little older and more established in your own lives before making such a serious commitment. Too many people rush into marriage at an early age only to find that a few years later they've changed and want something different. I'm assuming he's around the same age as you and he may not be ready right now to give you a promise ring or propose. That's not necessarily a sign he's not committed. If he really is the one then nothing will be able to come between you and waiting will only reassure you of that.

you are very young. the fact that he is not ready to propose or give you a promise ring does not mean he does not love you or is not committed. it means he is simply too young to be ready. it has nothing to do with you, he just needs to develop and grow. you do too. take some time and enjoy youth without getting all caught up in grown up obligations. they come soon enough and if you are meant to be together, you will grow together.

yeah, you're too young. live it up!

I think you need to get your head screwed on straight.

Marriage is supposed to be for life. What's the rush in getting engaged?

Guess what? I started dating my boyfriend in my late teens and we've been together for over five years. There's no ring on my finger but that doesn't mean we aren't committed. In fact, we live together, own some joint property and have taken some steps to ensure legal protections.

I will admit after I'd been dating him for about a year I wondered, "Why no ring?" But then, I realized I was just being insecure and naive. I was younger and I felt that somehow marriage would help cement things.

I'm glad now that we didn't decide to marry young. You do a lot of growing when you're done with high school and off to college or the real world. You and your boyfriend could grow together or apart. In time you'll see what happens. If you do grow apart, splitting up is a lot easier to do if you aren't legally bound to one another. Plus, marriage and commitment are not equals. There have been marriages that last only days and commitments of decades without the paper to prove it (like what gay couples in most states deal with).

All-in-all I think you should just take things one day at a time. If you're feeling unsure ask him where you two stand. Does he see himself staying with you for a good while to come? If so, don't worry.