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My husband and I agreed upon adoption prior to marriage which was a HUGE factor in my deciding to marry him. Well we've been married for 15 months now and the time has come, my best friend is pregnant with #3 and can't possibly afford to raise/keep this baby so I've decided that this is the perfect opprotunity for my adoption plan to come into play my husband however is hell bent and determined that it's not going to happen and that he is not going to agree to it. My friend is willing to be allow me to be the one to raise and legally adopt her child and I am 100% heart set on it however I can not seem to get through to my husband how important this is to me and that it is most likely the best opprotunity that we will ever have at adoption, I REALLY need help here. |
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marinemj:adopting your best friend's kid may not be what he had in mind. it will be very very strange and she will constantly be looking over your shoulder. i would find out if he has decided against adoption or just doesn't want to step into this mess...because it would be a huge mess.
2008-07-18 21:17
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Inah:Adopting your best friend's kid is probably way more than he agreed to and frankly I think a horrible idea. There are so many complications with that situation and I can see it easily ruining your friendship. It's one thing to be the legal guardian in the event of her death, but raising a kid while she's alive is bound to backfire. If you want to get serious about adoption you could try working with adoption agencies or fostering children likely to be in need of adoption later on. This all of course must be something you discuss with your husband PRIOR to getting your heart set on an idea.
2008-07-19 01:51
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harleygirl:
Sounds like your husband may have misled you. Is he against adoption or children in general, or just this particular child? You need to get the facts, because this may be a deal-breaker. If he deceived you, you could have your marriage annulled.