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i gave 25 years of my life faithfully to my other signifigant. he served a prison term of 1 year and 1/2. while he was away i took care of everything his lifestyle his things his house and personels. i had to suffer his parents abuse of kicking me out every waking day while he was in prison! he wrote me saying how grateful he was and that he was sorry for my burden from his parents and he was forever my other foever and ever. that he would never forget all i've done and how i been a faithful lady and took care of him. and how i've always been here for him when no one else was!said i was his only one forever and he would be true and love me and be with me for the rest of our lives! i forgave him and never unfaithful.always took care of him and trusted him and believed him. then he got out and all was great. then he started talking to other women on the computer. i was upset and asked him why and what was he doing. he said not to worry it was all just a game and he would never do anything to jeapordize his love for me.and that he loved only me and to trust him it would all pass and it was just a game. and if i would just not hassel him that i would see it was just fun and games.now he has found another with the same name as mine and same birthday as mine but only 12 or more younger. now he goes to be with her every weekend stopped putting in for household living and stopped all responsibilities he use to always do. he now says im sorry that it happens all the time and for me to move out and deal with it! also he comes from a very wealthy parents who let him live free rent and its a tri-plex we live in front place . now he has told his parents he was seeing someone else and he was planning on getting rid of me. his parents never liked me cause im mexican and theyr white. for 25 years i put up with theyr abuse. i still tried my best to always respect them and been very respectful even while being treated cruel. now that his parents think im out of here they have been supporting his visits to this other woman thats white and younger. he has been given the managing of the rent from the other renters. hes collecting the rent money with the ok of his parents so he has money to continue seeing the other. he does not give me money any more for food or for how im still taking care of him washing his clothes. im a fool i know, but im still deeply inlove with him. he comes back from seeing her and tells me hes sorry and that he still loves me but just not inlove anymore. im old now and have no place to go. he wants me out and says i get nothing for me to just deal with it. PLEASE HELP ME! |
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ravjav:Go to a woman's shelter and tell them the story you told us here. They can help you figure out how to get on your feet and away from your abusers (because you ARE being abused by all 3 of them). Love isn't enough - you have to have respect first, and respect for yourself is the most important thing of all. Without that, you will continue to allow someone like this jerk walk all over you. It is important to get counseling as you get on your feet so you can regain your self-esteem and your self-respect and now allow that to ever happen again.
2008-09-03 21:32
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marinemj:
wow. are you guys married? if so, you are entitled to some support while you get back on your feet. if not, you may be screwed depending on which state you live in. you may need to see a lawyer. married or not, you may have some rights.
do you have any friends you can stay with who can help you out?? if not, stay where you are until you get some money saved. tell him you need money to move out. maybe he will give you some.
and for the love of pete, quit doing his laundry and go get a job. and get the hell out of there. why are you putting up with some criminal cheater who lets his parents treat you like shit?? of course he said all those things while he was in prison- he needed someone to keep looking after his shit. and of course he apologizes after his weekends with the young woman. he needs clean shirts. seriously- get some self respect, get a job today, get some cash together, get a new place and get out in the world. 25 years is way too long to have wasted on this piece of garbage. don't give him any more.