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my nephews 1st Bday was in october as you know it is hard to buy gifts for a baby that young unless its clothes or toys . my sister in law said not to get him toys or clothes so I was real confused on what to buy . my brother wich is the babies father always liked monkeys and when me and my bro were growing up we loved curious george so I found this curous goerge book with all the stories in it ,it was really nice. I thought since there isnt much I can get him I could get this book and they can put this book away to have for later when he gets a lil older . well Ive been over my bros house and seen this book on the floor and slung all around the house ,I thought to myself why is this nice book out with all the babies toys where it can get messed up? but I didnt say anything . well mind you this was in october I gave the baby this book . my sister in law keeps on telling people in front of me that I got him a novel and he dont like it and that it is to heavy for him to carry all this crazy stuff . well as you know I bought it to be put away for when he is older I told her that when he opened it on his BdAY . Why does she keep saying this over and over that he dont like the book?? well of course he doesnt he is to young I agree .did she not listen when I said its to be put away for later ?? dont usually when people get story books for babies they put it on there book sheves or keep it for later ?? need some opions she keeps telling people I bought him a novel and he dont like it right when I am standing there making me feel stupid, I keeping telling her its was for later she ignores me and leaves the book down for the baby and just keeps conplaining to me and everyone else about it . why does she keep making me look and feel dumb ?? was it wrong to get a book for baby to be put away ? do people buy storybooks for babies anymore maybe they dont now but I know they used to !! thank you guys !!! |
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wullaby:I think it was a good gift - and gesture, especially for its future-ly projection. Don't trouble yourself trying to figure her out. There is not much you can do about that now. She has already done you wrong, clearly. The bottom line is that you did your bidding. If it bothers you that much - or her that much - next time just make sure you ask her for specifics. For now, let her be. Besides, you spent that money already. Good luck.
2008-03-25 07:01
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marinemj:she's a bitch. my guess is that she has other issues with you and is using this issue to vent her spleen. don't feel stupid. you got them a great gift, they are just to lame to appreciate it. honestly, when they said no toys or clothes, they were probably hoping for cash and are pissed that you didn't pony up. as a side note, some people are just not book people. maybe she is a bad reader and feels insecure about it. you can say something to her in private: "listen, mary, you keep bringing up the book and pointing out that he doesn't like it. i just want to make sure you understand that i got it because you said no toys or clothes, and i meant for him to have it later. please stop saying that he hates it because it really hurts my feelings." if she persists, i would get snarky. if she says it again, say "he might like it if someone read it to him. a curious george story hardly qualifies as a novel." or "yeah...next birthday i am going to get him 'war and peace.' he'll love it!" anyway, don't feel bad. i think books are a great gift no matter what the age.
2008-03-25 13:03
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truckstewy:I agree with everyone here. I think this woman is ignorant, probably a poor reader who never has done much literary in her life. I think she probably had an attitude with you like "What does she think shes smarter than us? Buying my kid books?" or something along those lines. From now on I would simply send a nice card for the child's birthday and let it at that. When the kid gets older, stick a nice 5 or ten dollar bill in the card. That is all the worrying you need to do on this from now on. I feel sorry for a mom who can't even be gracious enough to acknowledge your time, trouble and care in choosing a gift for her child when you are not even required to do that at all.
2008-03-25 13:56
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whatdoyoumeancookie:yeah maybe she's sensitive about being illiterate or something. that's a good and thoughtful gift and she is being a dumbass.
2008-03-25 14:29
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offthechain:You said that your sister-in-law is making you look and feel dumb, when she's actually proving that you are obviously the only brains in the family. How can it ever be wrong to give a child a book? It is NEVER too early to begin a child's love of reading, and the earlier you read to children, the more they will read as adults. I adopted my son as a single parent and some of my favorite memories are times I read books to him when he was a baby. That was years ago, but I can still recite The Cat in the Hat by heart because I read it to him so often. My son is 11 now and academically gifted, an avid reader. My sister (who is a law professor) sends him books all the time - she recently sent The Dangerous Book for Boys. Not only is your sister-in-law incredibly ungrateful, but she doesn't recognize how fortunate she is to have you as her child's uncle. Tell her to give you the book back and you keep it for the baby you and your soulmate will have one day - you're already on the right track to being a thoughtful, positive parent.
2008-03-27 13:06
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keri's:harly girl hit the nail on the head
2008-06-17 21:41
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harleygirl:
Your sister-in-law is an insensitive idiot, and your brother should have backed you up. When he saw the book, he should have said, "Oh, this is great! I loved this kind of thing when I was a kid." Of course GOOD mothers read stories to their children! They let them have child-appropriate books to maul and taste and explore, but they also need to be read to during short periods to get stimulation so they can pick up words and socialization. You've been completely disrespected. Next time your sister-in-law says something in front of you about the book, calmly tell whoever's listening, "I meant for my nephew to have that for later, when he's old enough to appreciate it. I was hoping he would learn to love the character as much as his father and I did when we were growing up. The book was given to his mother for safekeeping in the meantime, but I see now that was a mistake." Then walk away with your chin held firm. That should shame her and shut her up.